Self Worth and Confidence Therapy in Los Altos, California
When you don’t feel good enough, it colors everything — from your relationships to how you see yourself.
Struggling with self worth and confidence show up in many ways. Do these sound Familiar?
You often feel like an imposter in your own life.
You compare yourself to others and always come up short, no matter what you’ve accomplished
You dismiss compliments or praise because deep down you don’t believe they’re true
On the outside you look like you’re functioning, but inside you’re weighed down by constant self-doubt.
You struggle to trust your own decisions, second-guessing yourself long after the moment has passed.
You stay in relationships or jobs where you feel unseen because you believe you don’t deserve better
There’s always that nagging voice that says you could’ve done better.
Even small setbacks feel like proof that you’re failing or not capable.
You avoid opportunities or risks because you don’t believe you’re strong enough to handle them.
In relationships, you may downplay your needs, fearing that asking for more will push people away.
Low Self Worth and Confidence are states of mind and not permanent
It’s normal to feel low some of the time, but no one should feel down all of the time. We often take in messages early in life that dominate the narrative of how we see ourselves in relation to others.
Therapy offers a gentle environment to explore the origins of your self worth, question how this self view has impacted your life and learn new ways of showing up. Growing from self worth doesn’t mean just telling yourself that you’re great — it’s a process of getting in touch with your desire, your sense of agency, and acting from a place that is more your own. In therapy together we will identify where you’ve been and create a new beginning.
Self Worth and Confidence Therapy
As children we learn the basic building blocks of how to connect, receive love, and feel confident in who we are. Often, even with well meaning care givers we can come out of childhood with beliefs about our worth that feel harsh, hurtful and untrue. We can believe that we should be seen but not heard, or believe that our bigger feelings are not meant to be expressed. We can feel like impostors and not be able to take ownership of our lives even when we know we aren’t half bad. This cycle can be put to an end and your life can become your own again.
Self Worth and Confidence Therapy FAQs.
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Self-worth is the sense that you are inherently valuable, regardless of what you do, achieve, or how others treat you. Many people confuse it with self-esteem or confidence, but it’s deeper — a quiet understanding that you deserve care, respect, and belonging simply for being you. Therapy helps you strengthen that foundation so your sense of value doesn’t depend on external validation.
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Feeling “not enough” often comes from early messages or repeated experiences that shaped how you see yourself. It might show up in perfectionism, self-criticism, or chronic comparison with others. Therapy provides a safe space to explore these patterns, recognize where they come from, and build a more compassionate, resilient sense of self.
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Yes — but it’s not about forcing yourself to act “bold” or pretending to feel confident. Instead, therapy helps you understand what underlies self-doubt and hesitation, practice trusting yourself, and gradually take risks in ways that feel safe. Over time, you learn to rely on your inner sense of worth rather than constant external validation.
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You’re not failing; those strategies may not have addressed the deeper roots of self-doubt or low self-worth. Therapy explores the underlying feelings, beliefs, and relational patterns that have been shaping your self-view — and from there, real, lasting change becomes possible.
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If you find yourself constantly comparing, second-guessing, or feeling like you’re falling short, this work can help. You don’t have to have it all figured out — even noticing that these patterns are interfering with your life is enough. Therapy provides a supportive space to explore, practice, and gradually feel more confident and secure in who you are.
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Therapy helps you notice the patterns that keep you feeling not enough and practice new ways of relating to yourself and others. Over time, you may find it easier to trust your decisions, express your needs, and take healthy risks. Confidence grows not from pretending or pushing yourself too hard, but from feeling more secure in who you are and learning to respond to life from a place of self-acceptance and inner strength.
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